Yes! You may attend Quodoushka 1 and 2 as a single or attend with a partner. For Quodoushka 3 and 4 you must attend with a partner.

Many people ask this question because they think, “oh, I can’t explore anything about my sexuality until I have a partner.”

I would say, please do not wait to have a partner to attend a Quodoushka!

It’s a common relationship mistake to think that our sexual sense of self comes from outside. The truth is, our life force energy is ours, and until we feel good, whole and healthy in our own skin, and learn to accept ourselves – we will always have trouble receiving pleasure from someone else. And there is so much to explore about ourselves sexually.

If you attend as a single, (even if you have a partner), you will untangle so many beliefs about sex, and get so clear about your own feelings that you will return to your everyday life with such an attractive glow about you that people will ask you what happened? (We hear this all the time.)

But most important, you will not only be blessed with a temporary glow, you will learn practical intimate communication skills that will enhance your relationships for a lifetime.

That’s why I say “Do not wait to attend a Quodoushka.” If you attend as a single now you’ll be in a much better place within your self to find, attract, or rekindle a current relationship.

Of course you can come with your partner, and if you choose, you can do all the exercises together to share an exquisite and profound healing space for your relationship. The Quodoushka experience is simply an amazing, intimate way to celebrate your union. You will learn ways to talk about and make clear sexual agreements around things most of us often mistakenly take for granted.

We’ve even had couples whom chose to come to Quodoushka to celebrate their honeymoon, and to recharge a ‘broken’ relationship.

If you think you already know what your partner likes and wants it’s more than likely not exactly so. All partners can benefit from learning more, especially about yourself first. There’s so much that happens in both QI and QII that will give you practical insights about how to shift habits and patterns that keep you stuck in doing the same things over and over in your intimate life.

While we cannot guarantee Quodoushka will fix every issue in your relationship, we can say you will receive the tools to create enduring and more fulfilling sexual intimacy.

It’s often the case that one partner wants to go and one is not ready. I always say, if that’s the case, one of you should go, make clear agreements, and then share what you’ve learned with your beloved when you return. If you need help doing this, our staff is here to help you before and after the Q.

Many times when one partner goes, later, when they’ve seen the positive changes, the other partner wants to attend! Then you can have one go as a single, or you can both come to experience the Quodoushka together.

Yes! Quodoushka celebrates the full gender spectrum.

Quodoushka celebrates wherever you are across the gender spectrum. When we refer to ‘man’, it means ’the masculine’ and ‘woman’ means ’the feminine’. Referring to ‘man’ and ‘woman’ makes it easier to get the teachings across by keeping it simple. Quodoushka fully embraces LGBTQ. The teachings and practices shared in this workshop are beneficial to all gender preferences.

Quodoushka is open to all sexual orientations. We honor and teach that we all have a choice about what kind of relationship we could best learn and grow from. It’s one of the most accepting and loving spaces you will find to celebrate, share and express who you truly are.

If you have questions or concerns about how you would like to participate, our staff is ready to help you before, during, and after the Q.

We take great care to create a sexually safe environment, and we fully advocate and practice safe sexual practices.

Yes, nudity may be present in Quodoushka 1.

Participation is always voluntary. You may choose to remain clothed, partially clothed, or nude. You are never required to do anything you do not want to do.

There are guided exercises that include consensual touch.

However:

- There is no intercourse

- There are no sexually explicit group activities

- There is no sexual performance or partner swapping

- There is no pressure to engage beyond your clear agreement

The touch exercises are structured, educational, and consent-based. They are designed to help participants develop:

- Clear communication

- Boundary awareness

- Embodied presence

- The ability to feel and express a genuine “yes” or “no”

One of the core purposes of Q1 is to help you become deeply attuned to your own boundaries and desires — and to practice expressing them safely.

Before attending, every participant speaks directly with a facilitator to ensure readiness and alignment with the container.

The environment is guided, respectful, and intentionally structured. Most participants describe feeling an unusual level of clarity, safety, and integrity within the group.

If you have questions about what this means for you personally, we encourage you to schedule a confidential check-in call: book.amaracharles.com/widget/bookings/amara-checkin

First, every exercise is demonstrated, then you practice the exercise with a partner, and then we gather to discuss what we learned. Some exercises are solo, some are with a partner, and some we do together as a group.

Revealing these once-secret teachings for the first time, Quodoushka explains the physical, energetic, and sexual qualities of the nine male and female sexual anatomy types such as Coyote Man or Buffalo Woman and how to identify and best please each type as well as take pride in your own unique sexual anatomy. LGBTQ identify with your unique sexual anatomy in addition to the energy of that anatomy type, and how that translates in your sexual relating.

Quodoushka also describing the nine variations of orgasmic expression from avalanche to forest fire and provides exercises for greater sexual pleasure and increased orgasmic intensity, including the Chakra Merging exercise, a method for reaching a full-body orgasm through breathwork.

While we do not provide a complete schedule for Quodoushka, this is the general flow of the retreat.

Please note: These are just the bare bones of what happens in Quodoushka. (I have intentionally left out some of the most unique, fun and special things that happen during the ceremonial retreat Why? Because some people just love to be surprised).

Also, each Quodoushka Teacher may position topics and exercises in their own unique way. Every Quodoushka Workshop includes these essential teachings, exercises and practices:

Opening Session: We open with introductions and a history of where the Quodoushka teachings come from. We do a few spoken teachings on relationship choices, and we use these teachings to share and listen to everyone’s intent for being here. This is followed by a ceremony to help everyone set their own intention for the weekend.

We also create specific agreements for the group, including the rules for safety and confidentiality. This ensures our rules of engagement during the weekend provide a safe container and a safe environment for each person to learn about and explore their sexuality.

First Day: We begin with morning exercises in the Kiva to move and awaken the body. Then we gather in the beautiful dining area, where we are served healthy, hearty and simply amazing food...We follow with teachings to open our senses and balance our energy. This is followed by solo and partnered exercises that bring these teachings into the body, such as chakra balancing our chakras, learning the Fire Breath and practicing together as as a whole group. We will also do healing exercises throughout the day which show us how to bring a sense of the spiritual into our sexual life.

Most importantly, we also demonstrate how to make clear agreements about how to express what you want and what you do not want., as well as how to create safe, and clear boundaries. Many say this practice is probably the most valuable thing they take home into their intimate life, because it creates such a safe and liberating container.

We serve a beautiful lunch each day.

The rest of the day and evening is devoted to expanding our concepts and awareness of what sexual energy is and what it isn’t. The afternoon is filled with more experiences about how we can feel, sense and use our energy centers in very specific ways to expand our awareness of self, life and others.

Second Day: This is an amazing day of discovering new things about your sexual self.

We share interactive, experiential teachings and healing exercises to help us ground, feel and express a more empowered sense of self. Weather permitting, we will take our explorations onto the beautiful and magical ceremonial grounds of this healing sanctuary.

Sharing the experiences from the first days of our healing ceremonial exercises, opens the body and mind to feeling more relaxed, clear and open. During the morning, we share and provide answers to questions about why we sometimes react so childishly, or with so much negative emotion when it comes to intimacy and sex.

We devote the day to learning practical tools to help us see ourselves clearly, so we can wake up and take responsibility for what we want.

The afternoon is devoted to a very special Shamanic ceremony that is designed to help you lift deeply held layers of shame and guilt about your sexuality.

The evening‘s exercise and ceremony is designed to bring out different faces of your lover’s persona, and is designed to help you accept and feel worthy of more pleasure in your life.

Day Three and Four We explore the dynamics between men and women, learn about our unique anatomy types, learn remarkably fun ways to explore the different facets as ourselves as lovers.

We believe learning through pleasure is essential. i I we want to write a more empowering story and bring our full presence into our sexual journey, then we must shed layers of shame, guilt and blame that keep us only half alive.

To this end, Quodoushka comes from a tradition called 'the Rattlesnake School of Turtle Island." This mean, like the snake, we can learn to shed the skin of what no longer serves us, and reveal a new skin that gives us the potential to feel more happy and alive in our own skin. This letting go, and allowing more pleasure in, done gradually, with safety and care, is the foundation Of Quodoushka, that opens the way for us to tap into our core aliveness. This is what brings a fresh new perspective into our intimate relationships.

In reading the comments after my last Quodoushka 1 retreat, the overwhelming comment was , "More time please." I am listening, and fully agree that this journey is so extraordinary and so revolutionary for many, it absolutely deserves the extended time to allow the pleasures, the realizations, and the body-felt new sensations to relax into the body.

Part of the last days are devoted to learning amazing things about types and levels of orgasms (some you probably haven't heard of, some you've probably experienced. There’s also ample integration space given to sharing, resting, and expressing the things we’ve learned and gained for ourselves and with each other.

One of the most significant things that happens in every Quodoushka is that you will have the chance to hear about other people’s journey; what they’ve gained and what they’re giving away. In fact, sharing personal blocks, defeats and victories is one of the hidden treasures that happens in every Quodoushka, and it’s also where much of the healing happens, for we realize again and again, we are not alone in all this.

Plus, sharing within the Q matrix is profoundly uplifting, for you will not hear or experience these kinds of amazing intimate breakthroughs anywhere else in the world.

Our final closing ceremonies are designed to help us ground our gains and bring our love back home home into all of our relations.