I am not sure that there are always 3 common denominators, sometimes it involves toys, other times not; sometimes it involves a long time and slow steady playing, other times fast and furious; sometimes bondage or sensory deprivation, other times not.
Maybe it’s the willingness to go to where the moment takes both partners and the willingness & unselfishness to do or allow what the partner leads. But I do think it must involve the sense of oneness with the partner.
Sounds great Mark. Tell me more.