September 18, 2017

What is Your Heart’s Desire?

submitted by Amara Charles Back

“Follow your heart” has long been a cliché that many of us use when decision-making seems difficult. Following your heart is like a default setting for how we operate our lives, yet many of us are so caught up in logic or fear that we have completely lost touch with our heart’s desire. Are you eager to feel more alive in your body than ever? Are you ready for large doses of intimacy, beautiful sex, and tenderness to come your way? If you answered “YES” to any of these questions you are already creating the intention for a sublime and healthy life.

It’s important with any action to recognize your intention or your true desire. Your intention is what you are seeking or the reason behind what you are doing. Your intention is not always the same thing as the action you’re taking. For example, perhaps you want to lose weight. People have many different reasons for losing weight, which means the intention behind it can be different depending on the person. Some people want to lose weight with the intention of looking better naked, while others want to lose weight to become healthier. Once you identify your heart’s intention that will help you navigate which actions to take in your life.

In relationships, expressing our heart’s desire to a partner can be scary due to fear of rejection or being vulnerable. Do not let that deter you. Expressing what you truly want will be liberating for you and your partner. No more guessing or unmet expectations!

Clear, concise, respectful communication is the way to pleasure and happiness.

Sexually speaking what are you paying the most attention to? Are you waiting for somebody to match up to your expectations? If so, stop waiting and start acting. When you are fulfilled, you will be a more generous and nurturing partner. Elevate your awareness to increase your reward.


We’re interested in hearing from you on this topic, sexually speaking what are you paying the most attention to? Please share in the comments below.

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Jessica says

I have been paying with guilt for my feelings and shame for past actions regarding having my physical attention needs met. How do I break this cycle of grief and external expectations?

Joella says

Dearest Jessica, Thank you for your comment. The best way to break this cycle of grief is to first let go of expectation. When we expect an outcome, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. Because we didn’t get what we want, we might go down the mental path of questioning, which in the end, may bring up feelings of guilt. Reflect on what you mean by your “physical attention needs.” What are they really? Yes, perhaps it might be a longing for a partner or a friend, but it starts with knowing yourself first, YOU fulfilling that desire, and then if a partner is in the picture, communicating what you need so that you can receive it. Blessings sister.