Just for fun, I looked up ‘queen’ to see whether the common definition came anywhere close to my take on the word. I was especially curious to see if anything resembling what I might consider queenly made it into the dictionary.
Of course, Webster fails to mention the sensuous erotic brilliance I see emanating from a true queen. It merely says; ‘a woman regarded as excellent or outstanding.’
Yet, there was a chess definition I found intriguing about a Queen being ‘able to move through any number of unobstructed squares in any direction.’ This begins to hint at the expansive freedom a woman feels when she clears away obstructions in her path so she can move in any direction she chooses. Sounds more like it.
But here I wish to say something about the genius that shines through what I call an ordinary queen that is when a woman goes inside and finds her voice and she begins to feel alive in her body, and she doesn’t lose her mind in the incessant tangle of nothing-quite-goes-the-way-she-expects-it-to.
Being human has its pleasure perks and sex is one of them. It’s a natural part of our desires – a natural part of our way of being. Without sex our species could not survive, so why does our culture portray sex as wrong, when in actuality we are hardwired to have sex and enjoy it?
“Quehestemehah” You Dance in My Heart
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