Doesn’t it feel like that fling from the past, or the cute person you’ve been lusting after at work for months only wants to text you when you’re in a relationship? It’s almost as if others sense you now have someone who can’t keep their hands off you, and THEY want a piece too! Well, blame the pheromones because this is what’s going on.
I recently read something fascinating about the role smell plays in our love lives.
Naomi Wolf in her book, Vagina reports that “psychologist Denise Chen conducted an experiment with 20 heterosexual men by wiring them with electrodes to measure their sweat while they simultaneously worked out and watched erotic movies. Then 19 women smelled both pads that had men’s ‘aroused’ and ‘unaroused’ sweat on them, while they also had brain scans measuring their reactions. The ‘sexual sweat’ activated their right frontal cortexes – the part of the brain that recognizes emotions – but the ‘unaroused sweat’ did nothing for them.”
Imagine a world where we can accept being appreciated as beautiful beings, for our sexual grace and total presence with another human being. Dare to exhibit your beauty and play with spiritual flirting to command an encounter with anyone you’d like.
“Quehestemehah” You Dance in My Heart
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When was the last time you flirted? Do you remember how you felt? With the #metoo movement empowering women to speak up and confront abusive behavior, I believe this is the perfect time to strengthen rather than hide our Sexy Yin Essence. Flirting can be a subtle and wonderful art, that is not only fun to do, but is a great way to quickly gain energy. There’s something about witty banter with someone in passing that makes you feel alive and desirable. For a second your responsibilities seem lighter, and you can awaken that part deep within you that longs for more pleasure and playfulness.
Flirting is not something you need to do all the time! It can be practiced whenever you feel like it, and whenever you need a boost. Here are just a few of the ways flirting can become not only a spiritual adventure but also a way to have fun and increase your Sexy Yin Essence.
Are we too safe and too politically correct in 2018? Are we so afraid of engaging with others that we deny the desires of our feminine and masculine energies? If we want our relationships to last, we must embrace the human desire for chasing the next thrill.
Some couples bring in toys or props, role-play, or even swing, but the most mainstream and safe way to liven things up in the bedroom is to flirt. Innocent flirting is nothing to be ashamed of when the intent is to keep things fun, lighthearted and respectful. Smile back at that man who’s clearly enamored with your beauty, and both of you get an ego boost. When you pass by a married woman with amazing legs, tell her! I bet you she’ll head home with a little extra pep in her step her husband won’t even know what hit him.
Imagine a World Without Flirting
As the #MeToo movement inspires more and more people to share their stories of sexual harassment and assault, it’s hard to refresh our browsers fast enough to see the latest revelations on sexual violations. But what happens to the natural and healthy aspects of flirting, and is it still possible in today’s climate to flirt with safety and respect?
I think many of us are sitting back and reevaluating experiences in our past. How can you not? We’ve probably all been there to some degree or another, feeling uncomfortable…or worse. Because of this, I think it is imperative that men and women have honest and open conversations about consent and boundaries regarding what is and what is not ok when it comes to flirting.