In an article by Brenda Wilson called Sex Without Intimacy: No Dating, No Relationships the author wonders how the trend of ‘hooking up’ for sex effects our meeting and mating rituals: Hooking up started before the Internet and social networks, but the technology is extending the lifestyle way beyond the campus. Deborah Roffman says no one is offering this generation guidance on how to manage what is essentially a new stage in life.
The dilemma for this generation is how to learn about intimacy, she says: “How am I going to have a series of relationships that are going to be healthy for me and others, and going to prepare me for settling down with one person?”
I believe you can develop the qualities you need for long-term, committed relationships, while ‘hooking up’ or what I call free dancing. You can be honest about your intentions; you can practice care, respect and generosity, even and especially when sex is involved.
You can be honest about your intentions; you can practice care, respect and generosity even, and especially when sex is involved.