Just for fun, I looked up ‘queen’ to see whether the common definition came anywhere close to my take on the word. I was especially curious to see if anything resembling what I might consider queenly made it into the dictionary.
Of course, Webster fails to mention the sensuous erotic brilliance I see emanating from a true queen. It merely says; ‘a woman regarded as excellent or outstanding.’
Yet, there was a chess definition I found intriguing about a Queen being ‘able to move through any number of unobstructed squares in any direction.’ This begins to hint at the expansive freedom a woman feels when she clears away obstructions in her path so she can move in any direction she chooses. Sounds more like it.
But here I wish to say something about the genius that shines through what I call an ordinary queen that is when a woman goes inside and finds her voice and she begins to feel alive in her body, and she doesn’t lose her mind in the incessant tangle of nothing-quite-goes-the-way-she-expects-it-to.
People who are well nourished and greatly inspired by their relationships live at the outer limits of intimacy. They not only dream of but deeply crave what is beyond easy grasp. They know deep fulfillment comes from extending and stretching the borders of what is already known. If you want the most from your relations you must realize it lives outside your comfort zones.
Deep love exists on the fringes of plain view. It thrives beyond what is already known and being done. A great relationship, and real intimacy requires a new approach. Anytime you don’t know what to do differently, your answer is to hunt for another approach.
You know you are living in Dharma Relationship if you:
Can find something to smile about even in the most disastrous situations, forget about things that are simply none of your business and get on with things that are. You can get angry, sad, mad and even rage – but it blows over fast, and you keep finding that darkness inside and chopping it into little pieces. You make love as a solace, a source of sublime deliverance. You strive to know the other as best you can, yet take pleasure in never quite making it. You constantly know life is a rather brief adventure, and that it matters who you serve; your self or all humanity.
‘The hardest part of making an agreement is to get to the bottom of your true feelings…
Interview by Bella Lavey
How would you describe your spiritual path? And can you share with us a little of your history; what brought you to this path? Have you always been passionate about sexuality?
When I was in my 20’s I had a sexual meltdown.
I Loved talking with Max Van Prague about my favorite private matters: passion, sex and intimacy… It’s all about having a ‘Beginner’s Mind’. Great Interview. Thanks Max!