Doesn’t it feel like that fling from the past, or the cute person you’ve been lusting after at work for months only wants to text you when you’re in a relationship? It’s almost as if others sense you now have someone who can’t keep their hands off you, and THEY want a piece too! Well, blame the pheromones because this is what’s going on.
I recently read something fascinating about the role smell plays in our love lives.
Naomi Wolf in her book, Vagina reports that “psychologist Denise Chen conducted an experiment with 20 heterosexual men by wiring them with electrodes to measure their sweat while they simultaneously worked out and watched erotic movies. Then 19 women smelled both pads that had men’s ‘aroused’ and ‘unaroused’ sweat on them, while they also had brain scans measuring their reactions. The ‘sexual sweat’ activated their right frontal cortexes – the part of the brain that recognizes emotions – but the ‘unaroused sweat’ did nothing for them.”
Doesn’t it feel like that fling from the past, or the cute woman you’ve been lusting after at work for months only wants to text you when you’re in a relationship? It’s almost as if other people can sense that you now have someone who can’t keep their hands off you, and THEY want a piece too! Well, blame the pheromones because this is what’s going on! When we are sexually active our body gives off greater quantities of those marvelous chemicals called “pheromones.” These pheromones are the all-natural subtle sex perfume that drives the opposite sex crazy for you. Funny how this works; have more sex and not only will others want you more, you’ll want more sex too!
For a woman to have ecstasy she needs to be free from past tensions. To be receptive and open for sexual pleasure, she must clear negative energy stored in her body and deeply relax. She needs to let go of the negative emotions she accumulates and stores in her reproductive organs, including the ovaries, and the entire vaginal region. Taoists liken a woman’s reproductive center to a stove because, without an active, warming stove, the circulation of her blood and hormones cannot move through her body efficiently.
Without happiness in sex, we cannot release and express our natural orgasmic feelings. Instead, they stay caught inside our bodies. Much of this energy is stored away in both her physical organs and her heart center. A woman’s heart sees, hears, and pulses when she feels sensations of connected love.
Are you finding it difficult to communicate your heart’s desires with your lover? If your answer is “yes,” just know that you are not alone. Many people have trouble finding words for what they are feeling/wanting because they have been taught to suppress their sexual desires. Most of us are not taught that sex is something natural and good, but instead, we are taught it is shameful. “Even if we have managed to enjoy many positive experiences along the way, most of us have entered into adult relationships armed with almost no idea on how to deal with sexual challenges.” Amara Charles, The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka
Communication is key! It is what we all rely upon to be heard and understood. Communication is the foundation of all relationships and it’s not always easy to communicate our most intimate desires with our partners. It’s time to get over those fears and realize that communication is the gateway to intimacy and sexual fulfillment.
“Follow your heart” has long been a cliché that many of us use when decision-making seems difficult. Following your heart is like a default setting for how we operate our lives, yet many of us are so caught up in logic or fear that we have completely lost touch with our heart’s desire. Are you eager to feel more alive in your body than ever? Are you ready for large doses of intimacy, beautiful sex, and tenderness to come your way? If you answered “YES” to any of these questions you are already creating the intention for a sublime and healthy life.