I was asked by a couple to help create a special ceremony that was both erotically intriguing in a private way, and that also had many of the traditional trimmings of wedlock (without the lock.) They wished to declare their intention to be together for the rest of their lives, have a reception, great food and a band. But that’s about as much a resemblance to a typical marriage as there was, for there were no rings, no bridesmaids, no priest, and curiously, no vows.
Clearly, this was to be an out-of-the-box wedding. Even construing a self-styled custom vow, like one’s I’ve heard in many alternative weddings did not begin to cover what they had in mind. Instead, these two (who had each been previously married with children) wished to custom design the ceremony so that it mirrored both the open and committed nature of their relationship.