I know what you might think. Yes, while it’s true being as hard as rock can lead to hours of hot, driven, pounding love, there is a softer world filled with off-the-chart sensations – for both men and woman. The truth is, soft is where the sensation is. When you’re soft, relaxed and open you can feel more. And the softer the power, the bigger the bliss.
Of course, there are physiological (and highly pleasurable) reasons for staying hard. Most, but by no means all! ejaculations happen at the apex of a sturdy rod. While this often feels very very good, until you develop the ability to relax and open during epic surges of energy, both you and your partner will lose a great deal of what could be harnessed to feel more healthy, happy and alive.
Pull me into your den.
Where the fall of my abandoned fear triggers an avalanche of frozen feeling.
Rip down my shield of pretty lies and jeweled defenses.
Expose my cautious heart to the wild flames of your thunder…
What would an alpha male do if you completely ignored the things he does to drive you crazy? What if you started inviting him to do what you least expect?
Rather than saying ‘can you just... or why can’t you just …’ what if you said ‘I dare you to surprise me with what you think I’d most enjoy?’
This all has to do with wanting men in our lives to do things the way we’d like them to… but I’ll come back to this later.
Sometimes we may want to say ‘Stay…just stay.‘ And we may wonder why he can’t. Could it be that I am ambivalent? Or could it be he knows exactly what I want him to do, but he wont?
Here’s what I know about dealing with an alpha male;