Pull me into your den.
Where the fall of my abandoned fear triggers an avalanche of frozen feeling.
Rip down my shield of pretty lies and jeweled defenses.
Expose my cautious heart to the wild flames of your thunder…
What would an alpha male do if you completely ignored the things he does to drive you crazy? What if you started inviting him to do what you least expect?
Rather than saying ‘can you just... or why can’t you just …’ what if you said ‘I dare you to surprise me with what you think I’d most enjoy?’
This all has to do with wanting men in our lives to do things the way we’d like them to… but I’ll come back to this later.
Sometimes we may want to say ‘Stay…just stay.‘ And we may wonder why he can’t. Could it be that I am ambivalent? Or could it be he knows exactly what I want him to do, but he wont?
Here’s what I know about dealing with an alpha male;
As fascinating as the topic of the Instinctive Design of Erotic Attention* was really, it’s the bronco ride of co-creating with an alpha male that lifts my skirt these days.
My recent collaboration inspires me to reflect on the five things women tend to do when we’re with an alpha male. But first, I suppose, we should ask, What are the signs you’ve got an alpha male on your hands?
He’s Unpredictable. Check. Powerfully assertive yet yielding at the right moments. Check. He’s an unabashed, indomitable and at times he’s an unstoppable leader. Yet, as strong as he appears, a superior alpha male bows gracefully to feminine intelligence whenever she shows a face wiser than his own. Double Check.
The five things we tend to do are run, put him above us, contend, control or cultivate and then ride on the curves of his magic. Any of these options may be correct depending on the man and the time. The approaches you choose will either take you into tangled webs of disappointment or they will intensify the quality of happiness in your intimate relations with men.
Although the option of running may seem weak, if you sense an alpha male is using his seductive charms to get something you do not wish to give, running away could be an act of power. But how many of us, intrigued by an alpha male’s charm, stay longer than we know is right?
To reflect on the reasons why, consider this: cajoling you into giving something that you actually desire, but are afraid to give can be quite alluring. An alpha male must become good at hunting for the hidden needs of a woman; predators take advantage of them.