The way to strengthen your Inner Shakti is to listen to your inner teacher and surround yourself with good people. But what happens when you can’t hear a wise voice inside and the people around you are anything but kind?
A brilliant, successful woman I worked with for years made it through a completely unexpected dire and threating situation involving her husband – you know the kind of story I’m talking about – where a woman needs to choose between the comforts of home, and knowing when times up, and it’s time to go.
That’s when you need to have a full reserve of your Shakti forces on hand. First, you need the inner power to speak up and take care of business, and then, when all the doubts come flooding in, you need friends and mentors to help you hold your ground. Without inner power and supportive allies, you’re lost.
When our inner forces are weak we crave independence and we feel like we have to fight for our space.
When I was a young girl I wanted to be an artist and I wanted to be independent and free.
The problem was I didn’t know any artists.
I also knew I didn’t want to be limited by restraints and expectations my parents and everyone around me seemed to be following.
In my teenage years, it seemed to me that everyone I knew was kind of unhappy and they argued in their relationships and generally, they weren’t thrilled about what they were doing. I was terrified of being doomed to lead a dull, listless life. I was craving, that is until I got to know my English teacher Mrs. Bright.
One day during a retreat on Maui, I found myself walking in this super slow walking meditation musing over a Tibetan phrase I love: ‘Good in the beginning, good in the middle, good at the end.’ People ask me why I walk this way, and the answer is because I like it.
In the beginning, I slow my steps way down, I relax in the middle and release my breath at the end. So when I came out through the remnants of the ancient stone wall of this centuries-old Hawaiian temple, I walked around the outer perimeter inhaling each time I lifted my foot, softly pressing my sole to the earth, and then releasing and exhaling as I bent and lifted my foot again each step of the way. At first, all manner of memories swirled through my brain, until gradually, with each step, all thoughts dissolve in profound peaceful walking. Timelessness, and even any thought of timelessness arises and disappears.
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“Quehestemehah” You Dance in My Heart
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Just for fun, I looked up ‘queen’ to see whether the common definition came anywhere close to my take on the word. I was especially curious to see if anything resembling what I might consider queenly made it into the dictionary.
Of course, Webster fails to mention the sensuous erotic brilliance I see emanating from a true queen. It merely says; ‘a woman regarded as excellent or outstanding.’
Yet, there was a chess definition I found intriguing about a Queen being ‘able to move through any number of unobstructed squares in any direction.’ This begins to hint at the expansive freedom a woman feels when she clears away obstructions in her path so she can move in any direction she chooses. Sounds more like it.
But here I wish to say something about the genius that shines through what I call an ordinary queen that is when a woman goes inside and finds her voice and she begins to feel alive in her body, and she doesn’t lose her mind in the incessant tangle of nothing-quite-goes-the-way-she-expects-it-to.