Dedicated to Wiebeke and Stephan and the lovely ladies of Berlin who joined us for Erotic Intelligence!
What would happen if you let the men in your life utterly adore you? Can you imagine having men eager to provide whatever they can, able to take you into realms of pleasure you have may never known? Can you picture men who are turned on by finding ways to delight your body, mind and soul?
In my experience, when given the chance, these are precisely the things that men are absolutely dying to do for us.
But why do men seldom succeed? Why do they frequently fall short, leaving things unsaid and undone? And why do they so often seem clueless, asking us what we want?
For me, it’s a matter of inspiring men rather than asking for or demanding the things we want. Yes, we can ask, and sometimes even demand that they step up. But what works best is to let our selves be surprised by what they do.
How often (I’m speaking now to women) have you asked a man to do something only to be frustrated that he didn’t listen, or he forgot, or even did the very thing you asked him not to do?
This is the first task: let a man be inspired by your openness.
It’s no secret men love to feel free, and that they often bristle at being told what to do – especially by a woman. So pay attention to how you ask for what you want. Is there a hidden agenda? Are you too attached to the way you expect things to be done?
The way to inspire his best to come pouring out is to relax more into your beauty. I’m not referring only to putting on nice clothes or working out (although this may certainly inspire him too), I also mean to guard your speech, your eyes and your heart.
Try to say beautiful things about yourself and others; notice beautiful things, focus on creating beauty around you until there are surges of beauty that show up wherever you go.
One of the most important secrets to letting a man adore you is to cultivate the feeling that “I deserve pleasure. And I am worth it”. For a man cannot cherish you unless you first begin, little by little, to love yourself more
What makes you shine most brightly— this is what men find irresistible—is a kind of selfless shine. If you express selfishness, jealousy, greed or ignorance, this is precisely what will appear in the men around you.
A selfless shine is a luster that emanates from a woman who is plump with joy; it comes from a woman whose spirit generates happiness, trust and hope. She has a kind of erotic intelligence that supports his dreams and so she does not need to ‘get’ men to do anything…
When a woman nourishes her self, life and others this way she will be surrounded and supported by men who do the same. It’s a profound pleasure to inspire men’s greatness by being someone worthy to protect, provide and create for.
Quehestemehah (You dance in my heart)
Keeps the Fire