April 22, 2011

Is Intimacy Really Sexy?

submitted by Amara Charles Back

Is there anything sexier? A warm, soft body waits for you. You notice a smile and a shiver when you enter the room. It’s closeness that melts through anything, dissolves distractions and grabs you near. Sex is an invitation to experience beauty. Intimacy is the knock on the door and the lounging around after. Conversation, listening, loving whatever makes your lover happy- these are the things I love about intimacy. But intimacy is also rugged: it makes you ignore distance, oceans and time. It pulls you close even when you want to pull back. Intimacy is so sexy because it makes you want to touch those special places.

Keep in mind these three things when touching especially erotic places.

1. Delicacy.

2. Tease.

3. Deep Satisfaction.

Our most erotic places on the body yearn to be wanted. Yet they only open for touch when we tap gently on the door first. With permission, these places love to be surprised and have been known to moan for more. This is when touch goes straight to the soul, for there is nothing better in life than to be touched by someone we love.

Amara Charles – Keeps the Fire

Highly acclaimed sex and intimacy expert Amara Charles has facilitated Quodoushka spiritual sexuality programs around the world since 1989. Amara’s # 1 Best Selling book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka is inspiring men and women everywhere to become more caring, creative lovers. Amara has been a guest on VH1, BBC, ABC, and HBO as well as numerous national and international relationship conferences, radio and TV shows. Her humorous, insightful and often provocative presentations inspire men and women to bring more wisdom and happiness into their intimate lives.

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Michael says

As a man, I’ve spent a lifetime, being single and living on my own. Yet, I love sex and love women. It’s a long story, but mental psychological things kept me yearning, for what I had very little of… intimacy and contentment and love. Now in my seventies, I still attract responses from young women. But I can’t respond too much, because of physical difficulties. Its not a good situation. Those intimacies I do share mean a lot, but remind me of how it might have been! I’m wondering if there are women who would be able to live with some of my limitations?

amara says

Hello Michael,
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. From the way you write, I believe there are many women who would enjoy getting to know you.
In my experience, we often make things up about ourselves that have very little to do with what is actually so. The only way to really know if there are women interested in you is to explore.
Now, as you are exploring, going to new places and finding ways to actually meet women I do have a bit of advice.

Please consider that the things you put forth and project as ‘limitations’ are actually make believe. I mean no disrespect, but the truth is, you have no idea how your body and mind and emotions will respond to a real woman. Just to let you know, I have known several gentlemen who were convinced ‘things weren’t working the way they should’ Funny thing is, a big part of making that seem like a ‘real fact’ was simply because they stayed away from women because they were afraid they couldn’t perform.

So here’s the thing Michael. If you dare to be intimate and cultivate close friendships with women- without any expectations- you will likely be quite surprised how your body and your mind, not to mention your heart will respond. My advise? Take delight in any woman you can. develop friendships. stay connected to feminine energy. If you stay connected to women, and many of your fears, worries and concerns will disappear. In my view, (regardless of your sexual preferences) a man who strays too far from strong, benevolent sources of feminine energy is lost. Finding your way however is easy. Women love kind and generous men, and you Michael, sound like a man women would like to be near.

Say, this is such a great topic, do you mind if I make post about this, using your comment?

In beauty, amara

Vicky says

Hi, I was going out with a guy for 10 years. I am currently in my early 30’s. I found out he was actually married and had kids. I should have suspected this but I felt love for him. So deep that I found a great part of my soul complete when I was with him. When i broke up with him I fell apart. Until one day I was on my my laptop playing a game all depressed. Just to distract myself I played this game and then I met someone there. We have the same views on life and somehow we have almost the same experience. Since then we chatted instant message. For some apparent reason I feel connected with him. He says the same but I am in new York and he is in Europe. Anyways I started feeling this feeling of love again and it feels good. My question is, is it possible to stop loving a person you have been in a long time relationship and then feel a stronger love for someone I have not touched. I mean I have seen him in cam but not in person. I feel he is my soulmate. At times we even end up saying the same things. It’s going to be 1 year since we met. Could this just be a infatuation or real love. Sometimes I think that maybe I yearn to feel needed and in love that maybe this is just temporarily. My astrological sign is cancer and so is he. I just want to know any suggestions anyone can offer. I feel I have so much love to give but I am afraid to give it to a wrong person like I did before.

Amara says

Hello Vicky,
Thank you for writing here and asking your questions. Please forgive my delay in getting back to you. I just returned from ceremony in the desert.
You should be careful about using the word soul mate, and placing all of your love and attention in one place. Love is an expansive energy and does not need to be directed in one place only. For example, does a mother only have enough love for one child? Of course she can expand her heart and aferction to love as many children as she has. So too, you can expand your heart to love who you choose. Your heart already tells you that placing all of your affection and attention towards a man you have not actually met is not wise. See the relationship for what it is; an online intellectual and lovely friendship where you can share your feelings and ideas. But this is not a replacement for actually meeting someone, for as you know, something entirely different happens when we are physically with someone. So try not to confuse love, and friendship and assume that because you share many things, that you are ‘meant to be together’ always. This kind of overly romantic thinking is a fantacy that can lead to much harm. However, if you consider your selves lucky to have found friendship and continue to nurture this friendship then perhaps you will one day meet, and see what happens when you do.
Many blessings, in beauty, Amara

Sarah says

Hello,
Ive been involved with my Bf for three years now.
In the beginning the sex was erotic, and then we didnt have sex for months, and Im a sexual person being scorpio, then I caught him looking at porn which I dont mind but share!!! and be open…I then left him because of the coldness, and he jumped into bed with another women, and at the same time he was begging me to come back. Due to circaumstances we are back together again, but my sexual confidence has taken a knock.
What do I do to make him want me more and I want him, at the moment I dont really want to have sex with him, because of what I went thru with him, but at the same time, if Im going to make this marriage work what do I do sexually? I love sex and do want to make it more exciting for both of us.I read your articles etc, and thank you for your webite.
Looking forward to hearing from you.

Amara says

Hi Sarah, I posted a reply for you in the For Her and the Intimate Moments sections on my site. Enjoy! thanks for writing and many blessings– Amara

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