Are you finding it difficult to communicate your heart’s desires with your lover? If your answer is “yes,” just know that you are not alone. Many people have trouble finding words for what they are feeling/wanting because they have been taught to suppress their sexual desires. Most of us are not taught that sex is something natural and good, but instead, we are taught it is shameful. “Even if we have managed to enjoy many positive experiences along the way, most of us have entered into adult relationships armed with almost no idea on how to deal with sexual challenges.” Amara Charles, The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka
Communication is key! It is what we all rely upon to be heard and understood. Communication is the foundation of all relationships and it’s not always easy to communicate our most intimate desires with our partners. It’s time to get over those fears and realize that communication is the gateway to intimacy and sexual fulfillment.
“Follow your heart” has long been a cliché that many of us use when decision-making seems difficult. Following your heart is like a default setting for how we operate our lives, yet many of us are so caught up in logic or fear that we have completely lost touch with our heart’s desire. Are you eager to feel more alive in your body than ever? Are you ready for large doses of intimacy, beautiful sex, and tenderness to come your way? If you answered “YES” to any of these questions you are already creating the intention for a sublime and healthy life.
At least half of what happens sexually is a result of what we think about. Our thoughts have energy that will manifest in our lives so it is important to stay positive and open about the possibilities of building passion and having a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Scientists call this positive disposition towards sex, Erotophilia. Before you ever touch, it’s what you say that creates an opening for sex or leads you off in another direction. One thing is sure – bemoaning the lack of opportunities or avoiding the subject does little to improve your sex life!
So, what can you do to get the passionate sex life you desire?
What would happen if you allowed the men in your life to love every bit of you? Can you imagine having men who wish to provide whatever they can; able to take you into realms of pleasure that thrills you to the bone? Can you picture the kind of guy who’s turned on every time he makes just the right move at just the right time?
Here’s what I’ve noticed about certain men:
When given the right kind of clues, they’re absolutely eager to delight us.
But why do men seldom succeed as much as they could? Why do they frequently fall short, leaving things unsaid and untouched? And why do they so often seem clueless, asking us what we want?
In my experience, training a man to catch our signals of desire is a matter of learning how to inspire him rather than asking for or demanding what we want. Yes, we can ask, and sometimes even demand that he steps up or slows down. But there are better ways to inspire men to love us the way we’d like to be loved.
First, keep in mind what inspires men most, especially during sex…
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The body naturally knows which orgasm to naturally move into as a way of balancing the body, mind, spirit and heart. Knowing the body and having an educated pussy ( tupuli) and cock ( tipilli) is of high importance to bring more pleasure and fun into our sacred spiritual sexual practice. As we listen to our body, we become master conduits for creating more peace on the planet. When we allow the body to move in a way that comes from a deeper knowing of what we actually desire and yearn for it appears as though the body is much wiser then our own ‘planning’ can ever really be. When we have a orgasm or two or twenty we actually bring balance to different aspects of our being depending on also what kind of orgasm we experience.
There are many different types of orgasm. Check my book on page 183 in The Sexual practices of Quodoushka chapter 10 – The nine types of orgasmic expression.
“When we use orgasm well, our orgasm can sustain our health and well being. Yet, it is also true we can loose energy by having low-level orgasms.” page 201
I felt like the bed was rising and falling. We were so connected I could feel him inside as if he were actually touching my heart with his penis. We would stay like this for a while, rest a few minutes and start all over again. I don’t know how long we made love, and I lost count on how many orgasms I had. My belly was still shaking hours later. Leela Age Thirty-one.
This orgasm is a west earthquake orgasm, it originates inside as a rolling feeling inside the womb. Like the rumbling of an earthquake starting with milder sensations, it builds gradually in strength until it implodes inside with great force. These deeply satisfying orgasms induce swells of gratitude and profound intimacy. Page 196 in The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka.
To discover more about your erotic nature and learn about all the different male and female orgasm types. You can read more about this in my book The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka and find it in my online shop amaracharles.com
Wishing you all more high level orgasms and natural ways of restoring, relaxing and replenishing the body…