During the month of September, I will be discussing different aspects of sexual wellness and how it can improve your quality of life. Being that sexual wellness is such a broad topic, I think it’s best to start with discussing self-care, as it is an integral part of sexual wellness – allowing us to focus on ourselves and what our basic needs are, first.
What is self-care?
Self-care begins with self-love and centers on making your health and happiness a priority. To do that, you must first remember that you deserve as much attention as the ones you take care of around you. Identify what your needs are and nurture those areas of your life. Taking care of yourself will make you happier and better able to care for others.
Here are some ways you can incorporate self-care seamlessly into your daily life.
What would happen if you allowed the men in your life to love every bit of you? Can you imagine having men who wish to provide whatever they can; able to take you into realms of pleasure that thrills you to the bone? Can you picture the kind of guy who’s turned on every time he makes just the right move at just the right time?
Here’s what I’ve noticed about certain men:
When given the right kind of clues, they’re absolutely eager to delight us.
But why do men seldom succeed as much as they could? Why do they frequently fall short, leaving things unsaid and untouched? And why do they so often seem clueless, asking us what we want?
In my experience, training a man to catch our signals of desire is a matter of learning how to inspire him rather than asking for or demanding what we want. Yes, we can ask, and sometimes even demand that he steps up or slows down. But there are better ways to inspire men to love us the way we’d like to be loved.
First, keep in mind what inspires men most, especially during sex…
People who are well nourished and greatly inspired by their relationships live at the outer limits of intimacy. They not only dream of but deeply crave what is beyond easy grasp. They know deep fulfillment comes from extending and stretching the borders of what is already known. If you want the most from your relations you must realize it lives outside your comfort zones.
Deep love exists on the fringes of plain view. It thrives beyond what is already known and being done. A great relationship, and real intimacy requires a new approach. Anytime you don’t know what to do differently, your answer is to hunt for another approach.
May you rest. And continue your journey in peace.
Me and My Shadow Drawing by Sherry Folb
Let’s imagine someone has a growling shadow lurking within, which when poked, likes to start aggressive arguments and behavior. This person will project their shadow through quarrels and disruptive actions, and if it the shadow gets its way, he or she will find some clever way out – either by leaving or finding the perfect distraction – anything to avoid a good look within.
Why do we want this Quodoushka Three to happen in July? Because the exquisite love that will arise in the souls of all who are present will bestow countless blessings, not only for the couples who share these profound practices; the ripple of benevolence will shower over the land, touching the hearts of many who are in need of such hope and beauty.
The Quodoushka Three is a ceremony of tender love that cannot be contained by the body alone. It’s a journey to discover the kind of selfless love that is really a service of manifestation stirred by passion moving through and beyond the body. It’s a kind of ‘magic’ that teaches us to express our love so we can share these blessings.
It’s for those who are called to reach deeply into their hearts to find the boundless energy to give generously for the benefit others.
Does this seem to grand an ideal for you?
The real ‘magic’ of Quodoushka is