Are we too safe and too politically correct in 2018? Are we so afraid of engaging with others that we deny the desires of our feminine and masculine energies? If we want our relationships to last, we must embrace the human desire for chasing the next thrill.
Some couples bring in toys or props, role-play, or even swing, but the most mainstream and safe way to liven things up in the bedroom is to flirt. Innocent flirting is nothing to be ashamed of when the intent is to keep things fun, lighthearted and respectful. Smile back at that man who’s clearly enamored with your beauty, and both of you get an ego boost. When you pass by a married woman with amazing legs, tell her! I bet you she’ll head home with a little extra pep in her step her husband won’t even know what hit him.
People get into monogamous relationships for stability and security. We look for a mate to create life with and settle down. How heartwarming is it to see an elderly couple, out enjoying life, keeping the romance alive long after they say their “I do’s”? It’s a goal for most people to have long healthy relationships (whether through marriage or not) but it still seems like a mystery on how we can get there. Although companionship is the goal, we can’t help but wonder how two people can still satisfy one another after all those years. Don’t they get bored? The answer is yes!
Through comfort and safety comes boredom and routine. The only way to stop boredom is to keep things interesting and create new ways to get that thrill you once had at the beginning of the relationship. Flirting is an innocent way to keep the thrill going, to spice things up and to increase your energy.
“Flirting is a time-honored way of signaling interest and attraction, to say nothing of mutual awareness. It is a kind of silent language spoken by men and women around the world. The ways people communicate “interest” are so deeply rooted in human nature that the signals are automatically understood by all. Flirting is part of the behavioral repertoire we come equipped with to meet nature’s most basic command—find a good mate and multiply.” – Psychology Today
In games of courtship, where feminine yin and masculine yang energies constantly rise and fall, men gain energy by looking at things they enjoy, whereas women gain energy by allowing themselves to be seen. Men enjoy hunting, capturing and conquering while women enjoy being sought after. Once a man “conquers” something, so to speak, their energy drops, and they can become disinterested quickly. Thus, in order to build a man’s jing and qi to its peak, you want to follow his natural yang tendency to “hunt” rather than fight or be annoyed by it.
Amid the #MeToo movement, it’s important that we remain courteous and respectful but not lose sight of our masculine and feminine energies and how they allow us to live a happy and fulfilled life.
Sources: Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/flirting