A beta male knows nothing higher than himself; but an alpha male instantly recognizes genius.
I’ve had more comments from Five Things Women do in the Presence of an Alpha Male than any article I’ve written so far. Maybe having ‘What is an Alpha man?‘ on my mind turned me into some kind of magnet for them because for the last few weeks I’ve been quite dazzled by the alpha men who keep popping up around me.
Yesterday, at my favorite coffee shop a man who always wants to know what I’m writing asked, ‘What do you think is Alpha?’… I suppose he has to show you, he sort of has to prove he’s better than other guys.’
‘Yes. Maybe it’s true.’ I said, but as I explained that it’s all in the way he proves himself, he interrupted me with his real question: ‘Am I an Alpha man?’
‘You know,’ I said, ‘one of my favorite comments came from a guy who wrote: I didn’t think I was an alpha male, but after reading what you wrote, I think maybe I am.
Ok, the dictionary does say ‘alpha male’ means the ‘most dominant, powerful, or assertive man in a particular group’ and the word may conjure up notions of animal hierarchy or a heroic movie star who slays the dragon and gets the girl. So yes, he’s right, alpha men aren’t afraid to excel, they like to shine and they like mastering things.
But the word ‘alpha’ also means ‘beginning’ or ‘first’.
Alpha men have bold, risky, original ideas. They like starting things, and they’re passionate about doing what matters because they need to make a difference. These are the qualities women find hard to resist. That is, if, and this is a big if: If his ideas have heart. Predator alphas seek significance through aggression, benevolent alphas males strive to give what matters.
These men may be perfect seekers, but they’re not perfect. They become unhinged when they can’t quench their thrust for sex, success or influence. If peace eludes them, despite what they have accomplished, they’ll destroy or be destroyed by what they’ve done. If a man has the strength to stay, eventually, what matters most is the company he keeps and how he’s regarded by those who know him best.
When a man’s heart is connected to the feminine, to nature, he has ideas that matter. These men realize the only way, is the way in. Into their hearts, into the vast, wild, complexities of the feminine; even if it means getting swallowed up by it all, until he finds a way to stay in the grittiness of life with all it’s complications, feelings, defeats and failures, nothing matters.
No woman can provide what matters for a man until he is willing to stay. What we can do is become so connected to life our selves, so radiant and relaxed, he feels the warmth of our presence, and he will not be able to keep us from floating into his mind from time to time. This is what inspires alpha men to find their way.
Five Ways To Spot (and Respond) To An Alpha Male
Look for someone who expresses bold ideas. If he shows his originality, creativity or intelligence, observe and listen with passion. Then show him how his ideas make you feel.
Avoid Seeking the perfect guy. Notice good men. Also notice foolish, selfish or ignorant behavor. But whenever a man is on target, passionately tune into him with your body and your heart.
Inside all he says, listen for what matters to him. Most importantly, look past what he says or doesn’t say and watch for what he actually does.
‘Bad Boys’ may be alpha men, but are they the kind you want to hang around with your kids? Even if your not planning to have kids, ask your self, would he be around to love, care and protect you and the things you create together?
Carefully watch for the fantasy bubble you might be blowing up to make a man more than he is. Do not overlook transgressions. Notice the way he treats you and others. There’s a time and place for forgiveness, but not pretense.Whatever you ignore will take root to haunt you later.
Keep in mind you cannot make someone stay, commit, or be honest. But you can keep doing these things your self to become what you’d like to attract.
Are You An Alpha Male? What do you think about all this?
How does being In The Presence of An Alpha Male make you feel?
I appreciate thoughtful comments!
In beauty Amara Charles
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